I’ve always been interested in the concept of “minimalism” and “simplicity.” I read several books on it but none has impacted me more than Marie Kondo’s The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing. One of the concepts of the book that grabbed my attention was the relationship between a person and their materialistic items.
I have to admit, I didn’t completely finish the book yet. However, I am more than half way and something told me to start. It may also be my nesting instinct to prepare for the second baby. Regardless, the time has come and I was ready.
Just a bit of a background – I accumulated A LOT of stuff throughout the years and kept them all. I even had bins and boxes for different seasons for clothes. It came to the point where I had to take over one dresser and our master bedroom’s closet. Clothes were overflowing, hangers were tangled, and it was just getting ridiculous. I would find myself constantly keeping my closet closed because I was so ashamed of everything in it. I would also roll my eyes and shake my head every time I would look at my clothes. Although they are just “things,” I didn’t like the disdain I had for them. I wanted to be surrounded by items I truly enjoyed and loved. Besides that, my other reasons for doing the KonMari Method are:
- Have less material stuff
- Be able to think clearly
- Donate my stuff to those that are in greater need
- Give back
- Have a set place for each item I own
Marie also asks the reader to ask yourself “why” two-three times for each bullet point. My last answer was “I want to have peace of mind, be happy, and be at peace within myself.”
Marie than states that “The whole point in both discarding and keeping things is to be happy.”
I knew I was doing the right thing after I discovered this coincidence..
Marie specifically asks you to hold each item and ask yourself “does it spark joy?” If the answer is yes, keep it. If the answer is no, discard it. Below is my before picture. Please note that this does not do it justice. I had so much more stuff but forgot to take a picture of all of it. These are just my tops.
After I went through my tops, I then went through my sweaters, coats, pants, shorts, loungewear, intimate wear, and purses. Although the process was rather long and messy, I began to feel more focused and at ease. Gone were the bins with more clothes. Gone was a closet full of just my stuff. Upon completion, I only filled up half a closet and one set of drawers. I was rather proud of myself because this was a HUGE accomplishment.
The process isn’t over yet. Actually, it’s far from over. After today, I will work on my shoes, accessories, books, miscellaneous items, paper items, cards, photographs, etc. I’m just excited and looking forward to what the rest of the process brings for me. Even my husband noticed that I got rid of a lot of stuff.
I asked, “Aren’t you proud of me?”
He then said, “Yes of course but I just hope you don’t regret giving some of your stuff away.”
To which I responded, “I won’t. Besides, they’re just stuff. And material stuff is not important in life.”
Lesson learned for tonight – The path to happiness is achievable by gaining clarity from discarding material items.