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August 3, 2015
by myonionpeel

The KonMari Method – Clothes

I’ve always been interested in the concept of “minimalism” and “simplicity.” I read several books on it but none has impacted me more than Marie Kondo’s The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing. One of the concepts of the book that grabbed my attention was the relationship between a person and their materialistic items.


I have to admit, I didn’t completely finish the book yet. However, I am more than half way and something told me to start. It may also be my nesting instinct to prepare for the second baby. Regardless, the time has come and I was ready.

Just a bit of a background – I accumulated A LOT of stuff throughout the years and kept them all. I even had bins and boxes for different seasons for clothes. It came to the point where I had to take over one dresser and our master bedroom’s closet. Clothes were overflowing, hangers were tangled, and it was just getting ridiculous. I would find myself constantly keeping my closet closed because I was so ashamed of everything in it. I would also roll my eyes and shake my head every time I would look at my clothes. Although they are just “things,” I didn’t like the disdain I had for them. I wanted to be surrounded by items I truly enjoyed and loved. Besides that, my other reasons for doing the KonMari Method are:

  • Have less material stuff
  • Be able to think clearly
  • Donate my stuff to those that are in greater need
  • Give back
  • Have a set place for each item I own

Marie also asks the reader to ask yourself “why” two-three times for each bullet point. My last answer was “I want to have peace of mind, be happy, and be at peace within myself.

Marie than states that “The whole point in both discarding and keeping things is to be happy.

I knew I was doing the right thing after I discovered this coincidence..

Marie specifically asks you to hold each item and ask yourself “does it spark joy?” If the answer is yes, keep it. If the answer is no, discard it. Below is my before picture. Please note that this does not do it justice. I had so much more stuff but forgot to take a picture of all of it. These are just my tops.


After I went through my tops, I then went through my sweaters, coats, pants, shorts, loungewear, intimate wear, and purses. Although the process was rather long and messy, I began to feel more focused and at ease. Gone were the bins with more clothes. Gone was a closet full of just my stuff. Upon completion, I only filled up half a closet and one set of drawers. I was rather proud of myself because this was a HUGE accomplishment.

Leftover Hangers

Leftover Hangers

Several Bags for Donation

Several Bags for Donation. Please don’t mind my crying son. He wasn’t sad that I was donating my stuff, just that he couldn’t get through to see me!

End Result: A more organized drawer space!

End Result: A more organized drawer space!

The process isn’t over yet. Actually, it’s far from over. After today, I will work on my shoes, accessories, books, miscellaneous items, paper items, cards, photographs, etc.  I’m just excited and looking forward to what the rest of the process brings for me. Even my husband noticed that I got rid of a lot of stuff.

I asked, “Aren’t you proud of me?”

He then said, “Yes of course but I just hope you don’t regret giving some of your stuff away.”

To which I responded, “I won’t. Besides, they’re just stuff. And material stuff is not important in life.”

Lesson learned for tonight – The path to happiness is achievable by gaining clarity from discarding material items.

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July 24, 2015
by myonionpeel

A Little Hug

11053231_10153497542329402_7873887660425949437_nI’m always in a rush. In a rush to get everything done – get ready for work, change diapers, give my son a bath, clean up after his toys, put my son down for naps, laundry, errands, preparing meals, pay bills, etc. On top of that, being pregnant while trying to accomplish everything on my to-do list drains my energy twice as fast and leaves me very exhausted at the end of the day.

While trying to accomplish all that I have to do, I often find myself tensing up and not breathing correctly. A little reminder such as a hug of comfort from my little one is what I need to remind myself that not everything has to be perfect all the time. That it’s ok to not accomplish everything every single day.

A little hug such as this reminds me to breathe, to take it slow, and to take it one day at a time. My 1 year old knew that I was leaving him for the day and wanted some time with me. Rather than rushing to put him back down, I held him for a while and just enjoyed the present moment. After all, I will never get this time back with him again.


July 22, 2015
by myonionpeel

Ideal Situation

For as long as I could remember, I was lost in my career path and job goals. I didn’t know what I wanted to do for a living, yet held multiple positions from various companies. Although grateful for the opportunities, I wasn’t truly happy with where I was at. It wasn’t the environment or people, it was simply me and my attitude towards it. I decided to change my mindset and get my situation on track.

In 2011, I practiced the “ideal situation” exercise on a daily basis. This was recommended by a good friend of mine and was told that it works. I’d start with a few bullet points, refer back to it and edit it as necessary. I ran into my old list and this is what it looked like:

-Short commute

-Ability to work from home a couple days a week

-Flexible work hours

-Healthy eatery spots around the area

-Cute shops around the area

-Nice shady spots for reading and writing

-Peace and Quiet

-Environment of support and growth

-Less stress

-No politics

-Positive human beings

-Ability to grow internally

-Feeling of contentment, happiness, and peace

-Free of judgement

-No backstabbing

-Encourages good health and wellness


-Manager able to trust me

-No micromanagement

-Respect for ALL employees

-Casual attire

-Free Parking

-Free snacks/drinks/meals

-Love what I do for a living

Fast forward to today and I noticed that 90% of what I wrote above applies to my previous and current job. I did the following exercise for about 2 weeks straight. It took 10 minutes total daily. This can be applied to your ideal work situation, relationships, friendships, etc. It’s a tool to manifest what you want to attract in life.

1. Write down the characteristics and qualities of the situation you’re focusing on.
2. Read your list a couple times. Make edits as necessary.
3. Close your eyes and imagine that your list has come to life, you’re currently living it, and it’s happening to you.
4. Take 3 deep breaths and let it go.
5. Open your eyes and repeat the same process on the next day. Repeat for two weeks straight on a daily basis.
6. If necessary, edit your list.

The key to this exercise is allowing and instructing your subconscious to believe that the situation you want to happen, will happen for you. Whether it’s for a career, relationship, health, etc., there’s always a will and a way. You just have to put the effort into it and give it time and patience.

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July 6, 2014
by myonionpeel

Reflected Best Self ExerciseTM (RBSETM)

My sister asked me to help her with an exercise she’s doing for graduate school. Here’s a snippet of what it requires:

I am asking people who know me well to provide me with three stories of when I was at my best in their eyes. What was my positive contribution in each story?

Here is more info on what the exercise is about:

I would be grateful for your help with one of the required exercises for the course, the Reflected Best Self ExerciseTM (RBSETM). The Center for Positive Organizations at University of Michigan created the RBSETM to help individuals expand their understanding of who they are and what they do when they are at their best. The RBSETM is a unique story-, strength-, and contribution-based approach to feedback-seeking and analysis. A former RBSE participant said of the process, “Besides feeling closer to my friends and peers for their positive views of me, it was very interesting to note the different impact that I seem to have made on each of them. The specifics mentioned by them allowed me to see some of the mechanisms by which I influence and have had an impact on people.”

I felt that this exercise is a GREAT idea because 1, it helps you reflect on your positive strengths and 2, it helps you discover how you’ve made an impact to those that are close to you. I highly recommend this exercise even if you don’t need it for school. Below is my response to her. It’s a bit personal but it made a huge impact when it came to her strength and positive demeanor. Thank you sister for being strong for me during this time and for teaching me that there is light at the end of the tunnel! Love you

You have the ability to keep a calm demeanor and a positive attitude. For example, I think of the time that mom had a terrible accident during her trip in the Philippines. You and I were hundreds of miles away from her and we found out about it over the phone. Being 8 years older than you and your big sister, I felt that I had to keep myself together. Rather, I was overwhelmed with worry and concern, which led me to panicking over a situation I had no control over. I immediately called you and you asked what happened. I couldn’t help but burst into tears and not think straight. You responded in a calm manner and immediately told me that she was going to be ok. That’s when things shifted around. You calmed me down, thought more clearly, and believed that our mom was going to be ok and heal fast. Because of you, I began to think more clearly and let go of a situation I couldn’t control. Despite the distance and the situation, you easily maintained a positive attitude and helped your older sister realize that there is light at the end of tunnel. You reminded me of what a strong person you were and that you can easily influence others in a positive way. As a result, Mom healed quickly and came back home safely. We were all together again as a family.

Peace and Blessings,

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July 4, 2014
by myonionpeel


Happy 4th Of July USA! Today is a day we celebrate Freedom!

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Today is also a day I celebrate Freedom within myself. In the process of simplifying, I decided to partake in the 1 Year Wardrobe Resolution. Over time, I’ve accumulated a lot of material items that I no longer need, use, and wear. They’ve become organized clutter and took a ton of space. Because of this, I noticed a couple of things:

  • I continue to buy things because they’re “good bargains.”
  • Do I necessarily need the good bargains? No.
  • I end up having buyers remorse
  • My mind isn’t clear
  • I have a difficult time thinking straight
  • I cannot focus on one item/task at a time
  • A million things go through my mind
  • I spend several hours looking through my stuff because I can’t find anything
  • I often lose my cell phone, keys, glasses, etc. Ask my husband. He can tell you first hand that this is true.

At the bare minimum, the only things I really need to survive are food, shelter, clothing, and water. There are so many people around the world who have the bare minimum that remain happy. One example is when my husband and I went to Punta Cana, Dominican Republic for our honeymoon. We met a waiter who lives two hours away from the resort we were staying at. He said the following, “I work by the beach, have a job, kids, and a wife. What more could I ask for? I’m happy.” He only sees his family two days a week since he lives far and yet, he’s content and always has a smile on his face.

He got me thinking. What truly makes me happy? I’ve invested in a lot of “stuff,” and yet, that does not make me happy. I find myself smiling more when I’m around my family and friends that I love. On the other hand, I stress more when I have a high credit card bill to pay for.

I decided to finally get rid of my excess stuff and donate them. If I no longer use them, someone else can enjoy them. I also decided to stop buying clothes, jewelry, purses (my biggest weakness), and shoes for myself for one whole year. It won’t be easy but it’s a challenge that I’m willing to take in order to simplify my life and minimize my personal belongings.

This is a step towards personal freedom and I’m excited to reach my goal.

Peace and Blessings,

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June 28, 2014
by myonionpeel

Life Transformation: Simplify Your Life – Limit Technology

I’m guilty of it. And I’ve been guilty of it for YEARS now. It’s embarrassing actually. Cell phones, tablets, ipads, iphones, etc. didn’t exist growing up. And I was fine without them. So, why did I suddenly find myself on my phone ALL THE TIME? Why am I still on my phone when something is telling me to put it down?

Yep, that’s my intuition talking. And you know what? My intuition is right (again).

The following quote by Dr. Winston Chung inspired me to write this post:

Instead of worrying about our investments, material goods, or pursuit of power or carnal pleasure, we might benefit from putting down the smartphone or tablet and experiencing the smile of our child or partner, appreciating that we have eyes to see and realizing the transient nature of these precious moments as we inevitably grow older and change.

It’s ironic because the last couple days were rough. My growing son is currently going through his separation anxiety phase. He cries, screams, and whines when I put him down. He’s having trouble staying in his playpen, bouncer, etc. I can’t even find time to eat, brush my teeth, or wash my face. It’s become frustrating and overwhelming.

However, my outlook on this situation changed when I read Dr. Chung’s quote. I remember my son trying to get my attention, looking at me, and trying to play with me…all while I was on my phone. Was I doing something productive on my phone? NOPE. Could I have put my phone down? YES.

It’s the little things that I missed. A new facial expression, a smile, joy in his eyes, constantly hitting me or tugging my hair to try to play with me. It’s the simple things that matter. And this simple thing is what I need to change in order to transform my life.

I tell others all the time – “They grow up so fast. Before you know it, they’ll be independent and not want to be with you. Enjoy these moments.” So, why am I not listening to my own advice? It is pretty hypocritical of me.

It’s time to change. And it’s time to get it right and make it a permanent change this time. I’m truly blessed to be able to stay home with my son and to witness my little miracle grow up before my eyes. I will never get this time back and it’s best to cherish it now.

A snapshot of my little boy finally falling asleep after a tiring day. So happy he’s peacefully sleeping!


Peace and Blessings,

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June 27, 2014
by myonionpeel

Life Transformation: The Power of Beauty

Do you think you’re beautiful? Pretty? Handsome? Attractive? When you look in the mirror, what are the first three words you hear? When I look in the mirror, the first three words I hear are tired, ugly, and fat. I never knew I felt this way until Kat Kim of asked me the same exact question. It woke me up, like a surge went through my body. A lightning strike, a lightbolt, you get the idea.

I had two choices. I could either dwell on these three words and not do anything about it. The second choice was to change the way I viewed myself.

Since I now have a family and a husband who loves me, I chose the second option.

Since I now have son who depends on me as a mother, I chose the second option.

And since life is too short and there is no guarantee for tomorrow, I chose the second option.

The next question is, how do I get there? When I need answers, I turn to meditation. I meditated for a couple days and my answers arrived. A little voice told me to do the following:

  • Simplify your life
  • Donate items you no longer need
  • Cut ties with people that no longer serve a purpose in your life
  • Be cordial and kind to EVERYONE, whether or not you get along with them
  • Be selfish. In a healthy way.
  • Find a part-time job to get social interaction and a break from the home life.
  • Continue to exercise and eat right.
  • Meditate

Yes, it seems a lot but I’m starting with baby steps. For instance, I started exercising and eating right a couple weeks ago and I choose to continue to do so since it’s made a huge impact on my overall well-being. I also started donating a bunch of old clothes and let me tell you, it feels great and I feel so much cleaner. I promised myself that I’m going to continue donating more to others.

I’m done.

I’m done feeling this way and I’m done looking at myself in a negative light.

I want to love myself more, trust myself more, and just be more happy. The first step is to indeed love myself wholeheartedly. After all, life is short and my time isn’t forever on this earth.

Join me on this new blog series that I’ll be writing titled “life transformation.” I’ll keep you posted on my progress and what I’m doing to reach my goal. I’ll also share my struggles and successes. I hope you join and celebrate with me.

Peace and Blessings,

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June 4, 2014
by myonionpeel


Have you questioned your own path when others have succeeded in theirs? They may be successful in their careers, relationships, accomplishments, self-worth, etc. How many times have you heard other say “I wish I was (insert famous celebrity’s name here).” Why do you think that’s so? Is it because we’re not happy with who we are and where we’re at in life?

That, my friends, is the truth. Based on my own experience, we want more. We crave for more. Even if we have all the money in the world, we want more. Even if we have a healthy family, we want more. Why not just be happy with what we currently have and where we’re currently at in life? We’re living our own path. Our own unique path. And it’s beautiful and meant to be for you.

In the past, I’ve caught myself wishing for the following:

  • to have a bigger house
  • more shoes
  • more clothes
  • more money
  • more travel time
  • a better paying job
  • a better job
  • a nice car
  • etc
  • etc
  • etc

The list is never ending.

I once woke up and said STOP! Stop thinking this way and be happy with who you are and what you have right now. And can I tell you, the feeling was absolutely freeing. I freed myself from the negative voices in my head and the crave to want what others have. I started to be more grateful for what I have and who I am.

Don’t get me wrong. I have days where I don’t feel this way. I have crappy days too. But the key is to pick yourself back up and get to this place known as gratitude.

After all, waking up the following day and being alive is enough to be grateful, right?



May 23, 2014
by myonionpeel

I am selfish.

But not in a bad way. One of my mentors taught me to be selfish in a good way.

Selfish in a good way? Does that even exist?

Why, yes it does! Hear me out.

  • What if your decisions made you happy without harming others?
  • What if you followed your own path without intentionally hurting others?
  • What if you said “no” for your own good but disappointed others?
  • What if you made decisions based on your instincts? Even if others didn’t agree with them?
  • What if you consciously and actively followed those instincts on a permanent basis?

Those, my friend, are all positive selfish acts that result in great satisfaction within yourself. You’re not hurting or harming anyone. You’re simply following your own path, chasing your dreams, driving towards your goals. I’ve been practicing this for a couple of months now and it feels so darn good to follow my own unique path.

In the past, I’d make decisions based on the opinions of others. I would tell myself that I’m doing the right thing because it pleased my family. However, I was dying inside to do the opposite. What would you rather do? Do something to please others or start giving yourself joy and happiness? I for one decided to choose the second option.

The next time you’re on a brink of making a decision, ask yourself this: Would this decision make me happy without hurting or harming others? If so, you have your answer =).

Peace and Blessings,

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March 26, 2014
by myonionpeel

Do You Love Yourself?

I love you.
I believe in you.
I trust you.
You are beautiful.
You are wonderful.

When was the last time you said these words to yourself? When was the last time you said it and actually meant it? Try this:

1. Look in the mirror.
2. Say either one, a couple, or all of them to yourself.
3. Can you look at yourself in the eye when you say it?

Often times, we are quick to blame ourselves rather than provide ourselves with love. Think about it. How many times have you said negative vs. positive things to yourself? How many times have you called yourself stupid and dumb? If this sounds like you, it’s time to stop. You deserve more than negativity. Hold your head up high, look in the mirror, say “I love you” to yourself. How do you feel now?

I discovered this simple yet effective and powerful tool from a couple of my mentors. I found myself feeling more happy, confident, and at peace after changing my mind set and getting rid of my negative thoughts.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m still human. Some days it’s easy, some days it’s hard. But if you continue to stive and are more aware of your thought process, you can be at more peace. You deserve to think highly of yourself. And when should you start feeling this way? The time is now.

Focus on what makes you happy, on what you truly love about yourself and your life. When you catch yourself thinking negatively, take a deep breath and bring your focus to your happy place. We all have bad days but our thought process can easily change that for us.

I hope this helps you. Have a beautiful day!

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